Frequently Asked Questions by Caregivers
“Will I feel guilty about bringing Joe to the Club?”
The decision to bring Joe to the Club may be difficult for you; feeling guilty is a common response. But everyone benefits from a day at the Club. In fact, all of our caregivers report decreased stress for themselves, reduced anxiety in their loved ones and a strengthened relationship.
“What if Joe doesn’t want to go?”
It’s daunting to try new things and go to new places – especially for someone with memory loss. Our staff is trained to help manage people’s anxieties.
Here are a few suggestions:
- Don’t feel guilty! Convince yourself first!
- Take a “try-it-and-see” approach
- Be firm but don’t argue; redirect the conversation if Joe complains
- Routine is essential
- Give Joe time to adjust
- We will help you come up with strategies that work!
“Is Joe unhappy at the club?”
Joe may enjoy the club while he is here, but complain to you that he is unhappy. This is normal. Don’t argue. Try saying, “Let’s talk about it later” or “I’d like you to go for a little while, just for me.”
As the club becomes a routine and Joe makes new friends, he’ll look forward to his days here . . . and so will you!
“Why is Joe better at the club than at home?”
Everyone benefits from social interaction. It’s never too early to join the Club! The sooner you join, the better off you – and Joe — will be. Members report an overall good feeling after a day at the club; they are often less anxious, less stressed and may sleep better.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
“What if Joe has never been social . . . will he still like the Club?”
People are “hardwired” to crave and rely on human contact and interaction. Just as we have a built-in desire for food, water and sleep, we also have a deep need to connect with other people.
Studies confirm this. A 2008 Harvard School of Public Health study showed that an active social life may slow the rate of memory decline.
Spouses are closer than ever before, but that kind of intimacy can work against us if we allow ourselves to “cocoon” within the relationship. In the same way, too much reliance on the parent/child bond can be stressful as well. Studies show that people who socialize outside of their family group have better emotional, intellectual and physical health.
Don’t make assumptions about your partner, parent or friend. They may enjoy the new experiences they have at the Club and the new friends they make.
“What if Joe can’t remember what he did all day, does it really matter?”
In a fascinating study of people with memory loss, scientists found that people retain lasting good feelings from positive experiences.
Joe may have a great time at the club, but won’t be able to tell you what he did all day or if he had fun. However, families report that Joe is less anxious and happier after a day at the club.
And a day at the Club is so much better than a day spent watching TV!
“Joe was a rocket scientist . . .will he still like the classes at the Club?”
We offer a mix of sophisticated classes that are well-suited to adults with memory loss: brain games, expressive arts, music, animal visits, and current events, just to name a few.
Don’t second guess what Joe might like to do all day. There is no substitute for real human warmth, care, and friendship blended with creative arts.
“Do you provide for people who need assistance as well as people who are independent?”
Club members come in all shapes, sizes, and levels of independence. At a certain point, a member’s needs may include assistance at meal time, with walking or in the restroom. Our staff is trained to assist members in the most dignified way possible.
“Isn’t it depressing to see people sleeping?”
Medications and memory loss can disturb our normal sleep cycles. Sometimes people are tired during the day and may nap.
We keep people wholly engaged throughout the day, but if a club member needs a little snooze time, there’s nothing wrong with that!
“Why are there so many ‘old’ people?”
There’s no age limit for club members. Members are grouped by interests and compatibility.
“I noticed people coloring! Isn’t that a little childish?”
Pencil art, especially coloring mandalas*, is a proven stress reduction technique. We use only good quality art supplies to insure easy use and precision results.
*Mandala – any of various designs, usually circular symbolizing the universe; in Jungian theory, a symbol representing the effort to reunify the self.
“Why does the club appear to be expensive?”
Fees only cover a potion of the cost and compared to home care, the club is moderately priced. Additionally, you are assured that Joe is not sitting in front of the TV all day but meeting new people, exploring his creative side, engaged and involved.